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A brief thought on hard points

If you do not know beyond a shadow of a doubt that a suspension point is definitely good enough then it's NOT good enough. If you do not have the necessary knowledge to judge if an unfamiliar suspension point is good enough yourself. Then you should set about acquiring that knowledge or just not use it. I honestly think that having the ability to judge the appropriateness of a suspension point is an essential skill for anyone who's going to suspend in different locations. And yes, I apply that to suspension points in clubs and at events too. I've refused to use points in clubs because for one reason or another I wasn't happy with them. And you cannot just take it on trust and you have to be responsible for the decision to suspend on whatever it is that you do suspend on. Because... You are making the decision to hang someone's life on that thing!

By | 2015-05-15T22:15:42+00:00 May 15th, 2015|Categories: Bondage, Suspension|Tags: , , , , |0 Comments

Copy wrong

Filed firmly under the category of really? Again? Had to send some takedown notices again on one site because someone had copped our images, modified them to remove the mark and posted it up on their profile. I issued the usual DMCA takedown and that image was removed. That's pretty much the unfortunate business as usual. What was odd was the message I received from the guy after. What a sad man. Nothing better to do than grassing people up for something that doesn't affect you at all. I liked the pic, never said it was mine. No life. Derp right? What a sad man I must be not letting him just rip off stuff without consequences, nothing better to do than report an idiot that doesn't understand copyright and thinks they're entitled to rip off anything they fancy just because they 'liked the pic'. And how could I possibly think that him ripping off my work, removing even the mark that could have led people back to my work and posting it horribly degraded could possibly affect me? Just ridiculous of me. It was nice of him to admit that he had no rights to the image though. I don't imagine that was his intent but possibly not the sharpest tool in the box. So lastly, 'no life'. Well here's my problem with that. I do very much have a life. A very large part of that life this person so amusingly assumes that I  don't have very obviously involves tying up lots of beautiful women. Part of it even included creating these images that the guy liked so much that he flatteringly posted them with the creators identification edited off. I have so many [...]

By | 2017-03-17T09:57:05+00:00 November 22nd, 2014|Categories: Bondage, Community, Life|Tags: , , , |0 Comments

Rope minimalism

Here is some rope minimalism from some time ago. Originally this came up because of someone saying that 6 feet of rope was 'obviously' too short to do any bondage with. So here are a few ties done with a 6 foot length of rope doubled to make it only 3 feet of working length. It's interesting to see what can be done when you place a deliberate restriction on yourself and challenge yourself to be creative within the parameters of that restriction. I was determined that these not be simply for show but that they be obviously practical effective bondage too.

By | 2015-08-16T23:40:07+00:00 October 29th, 2014|Categories: Bondage|Tags: , , , , |0 Comments

Rope bondage references

References are a valuable tool for keeping you informed, aware and safe when considering playing with others. I cannot recommend getting references enough, although they are often overlooked and not used enough when considering tying with new people. I think that rope tops should vet bottoms and bottoms should vet tops before playing, shooting, and especially performing. I have heard of instances when this system has been abused, confidentiality is broken and people get angry and hurt. This results in a bad feeling and quality of reference. It can lead to scene drama and people being unwilling to give references. It is very simple to avoid this situation and have a great resource for our community. Giving References A good protocol to abide by when you are asked for a reference is to report facts, your own actual experience. Try not to sensationalise things in your head. It can be difficult but try to remain unbiased when giving a reference, separate your feelings from the person and inform the person what your own experience was or what your current knowledge is surrounding that individual. Getting References When asking for a reference, it is important to remember that you are asking for an account of someone’s individual experience with the person in question. They may be the one person to have a positive or negative experience so it is important to get more than one reference. When it comes to rope bondage I recommend gathering as many references as possible from tops and bottoms to build a picture of the person you are considering doing rope with. Potential Questions Negotiation How was negotiation handled? Was it done? Were agreements and limits honoured? Injury Accidental etc. What [...]

By | 2017-03-17T09:57:05+00:00 May 5th, 2014|Categories: Bondage, Education|Tags: , , , , |0 Comments

Baltimore (2012)

In 2012 we had the great pleasure of staying with Hammer, Roxy and Lochai in Baltimore after that year's Shibaricon. One cool thing there was visiting the Baltimore Play House and giving an impromptu show there. This video is thanks to our good friend Murphy (BlueRisk). We'd like to say thanks to everyone that made us feel so welcome in Baltimore for their tremendous hospitality. We had a wonderful time and hope we'll make it back some day soon. Our stay was, as always, all too brief.

By | 2017-03-17T09:57:05+00:00 March 2nd, 2014|Categories: Community, Life, Performance|Tags: , , |0 Comments

A wonderful 2013

It's been an extraordinary year. Things have happened that I could not have predicted. Surprising and wonderful opportunities have come my way. I have worked with some amazing people. I just don't know what to say about most of it. Some of it seems like a dream. It's good to take a moment and reflect on the things that have happened and remember that through all of the triumphs and disasters of life that they never happen in isolation from the rest of the world. I have had opportunities that would simply never have occurred without the kindness and generosity of some extraordinary friends. I absolutely thank them from the bottom of my heart for their support and friendship. Knowing such people is one of life's great joys. Every year it seems that it's hard to imagine that the next could possibly be better than the previous one. Yet it's kept happening for the last few years. This past year I have tied for an international fashion magazine (more news when that's published), The movie love.honour.obey by Raindance Raw Talent and Mulholland pictures and directed by Ate de Jong. Last but not least the epic opportunity to work with avant garde legend Bob Wilson. It was a rare opportunity to play a part in his project for the Louvre gallery in Paris. More incredibly the model for this project was Lady Gaga. I can't say how incredible it feels to know that there's some full on suspension bondage hanging in the worlds most famous art gallery.

By | 2017-03-17T09:57:05+00:00 February 15th, 2014|Categories: Bondage, Life|Tags: , , |0 Comments

What is Kinbaku today?

This is a personal post and just a musing.  What I think it is changes over time and this is not everything that I think it is. If you're looking for a definition please look elsewhere. Kinbaku is the art of erotic, sensual, intimate, bondage. It is tying for beauty, helplessness and exquisite suffering. To tie is to hug, tender and violent. It is lust and art together. It is expression beyond my ability to describe it.

By | 2017-03-17T09:57:06+00:00 January 22nd, 2014|Categories: Bondage, Rope|Tags: , , , , |0 Comments

Conflicted perspectives

I see a great deal of debate on-line that I believe is at cross purposes. Often this surrounds the issue of Japanese vs. European or Western perspectives about Shibari. I think a great many of these arguments are mistaken, miss-directed and completely unproductive. I believe that this is because each of those arguing from either end of the spectrum mistakes something fundamental.  That is that they are each looking at the other from a perspective that is determined by their own exclusive interest. I know that many people only know me for my Japanese style bondage but I have done all kinds of bondage over the years and still occasionally do DID shoots on a professional basis for websites. This should I hope inform the reader that I'm more than reasonably good at the 'western' style and help people not to assume that I, as some have so delightfully put it "have no right to talk about anything other than the Japanese style". While I of course thank you for your short sightedness, prejudice and stupidity together with the laugh it gives me. I'm going to talk about it anyway. Looking at DID bondage and judging it as Shibari is bound to lead to the conclusion that it isn't very good. It's not good Shibari. It wasn't created to be good Shibari, it doesn't do what good Shibari should. Looking at Shibari from a DID perspective is going to lead to a similar conclusion. Personally I find them to be very different each from the other. They foster and require different attitudes. They have ultimately different goals. Accepting that they are both forms of rope bondage they are probably as dissimilar as types of rope bondage can [...]

By | 2013-12-28T21:09:44+00:00 December 29th, 2013|Categories: Bondage|Tags: , , , , , |0 Comments

Cycles of interest and taste

It's funny how we go through cycles of interest through time. Recently I've been looking back through the shoots I've rigged for in the last few years. I can see certain cycles of interest rising and falling, sometimes resurfacing again in slightly different ways. There were periods where I explored certain aspects of bondage or certain visual tastes on shoot after shoot. There was a period about 3 years ago where shoot after shoot contained very low level suspensions. At another time bamboo appeared somewhere in almost every shoot. Inevitably these interests waxed and waned as I felt out certain methods of expression until I felt satisfied that they were something I had a handle on. Certain techniques were explored and pushed. The limits found. The learning assimilated. Each of these themes became another part of the things that I do. None came to dominate. It's interesting when you have been around long enough to see a similar thing happen in the bondage scene as a whole. In recent years there have been periods where it seemed that everyone was going crazy for single ankle suspensions at one point in time and Futomomo tsuri at others. Rope bondage is subject to fashions and fads just like the rest of life.  Often these fads rise and fall as if they'd never been. Each time though I think that they leave something behind. They have been the basis for people trying ties and techniques that are new to them. I think that people tend to deride the fact of fads. Complain that they are seeing the same things over and over again. On the other hand sometimes they are useful in that the propagate new ideas. These [...]

By | 2017-03-17T09:57:06+00:00 December 28th, 2013|Categories: Bondage, Life|Tags: , , , |0 Comments