Monthly Archives: December 2013


Conflicted perspectives

I see a great deal of debate on-line that I believe is at cross purposes. Often this surrounds the issue of Japanese vs. European or Western perspectives about Shibari. I think a great many of these arguments are mistaken, miss-directed and completely unproductive. I believe that this is because each of those arguing from either end of the spectrum mistakes something fundamental.  That is that they are each looking at the other from a perspective that is determined by their own exclusive interest. I know that many people only know me for my Japanese style bondage but I have done all kinds of bondage over the years and still occasionally do DID shoots on a professional basis for websites. This should I hope inform the reader that I'm more than reasonably good at the 'western' style and help people not to assume that I, as some have so delightfully put it "have no right to talk about anything other than the Japanese style". While I of course thank you for your short sightedness, prejudice and stupidity together with the laugh it gives me. I'm going to talk about it anyway. Looking at DID bondage and judging it as Shibari is bound to lead to the conclusion that it isn't very good. It's not good Shibari. It wasn't created to be good Shibari, it doesn't do what good Shibari should. Looking at Shibari from a DID perspective is going to lead to a similar conclusion. Personally I find them to be very different each from the other. They foster and require different attitudes. They have ultimately different goals. Accepting that they are both forms of rope bondage they are probably as dissimilar as types of rope bondage can [...]

By | 2013-12-28T21:09:44+00:00 December 29th, 2013|Categories: Bondage|Tags: , , , , , |0 Comments

People with Agendas and Social Chess

One of the worst blights on any community is those individuals with agendas to push. Generally these are about the person themselves, how they want the world to see things, i.e. their way.  And of course about how they would like people to perceive them. But all of that is ultimately about people wanting power in one way or another. To be seen as a 'leader' or some kind of font of wisdom. An 'authority' on some subject. Someone that others look up to. You see the worst examples of this again and again. Generally in subjects where they would like to be seen as experts. Sometimes you see people who are really into a subject, when people disagree with those genuinely interested in the subject for itself rather than as a means to their own end they will debate when challenged. They may realise a mistake or have found a better knowledge. They may take new input with enthusiasm because... they are genuinely interested in the subject and learning more and better information about it is what they're about. The person using any subject as part of their agenda to promote themselves is likely to react in a very different way. I have seen those with agendas try all kind of things when challenged on what they see as their area of expertise. Trying to belittle or ignore the source of conflicting information  is the mildest. Trying to discredit the source as a person is probably the worst. Why this behaviour? Because to the person with an agenda to push the subject is not something they actually care about in and of itself, it's just a tool. Something they can use to make themselves [...]

By | 2017-03-17T09:57:06+00:00 December 29th, 2013|Categories: Community, Life|Tags: , , |0 Comments

Cycles of interest and taste

It's funny how we go through cycles of interest through time. Recently I've been looking back through the shoots I've rigged for in the last few years. I can see certain cycles of interest rising and falling, sometimes resurfacing again in slightly different ways. There were periods where I explored certain aspects of bondage or certain visual tastes on shoot after shoot. There was a period about 3 years ago where shoot after shoot contained very low level suspensions. At another time bamboo appeared somewhere in almost every shoot. Inevitably these interests waxed and waned as I felt out certain methods of expression until I felt satisfied that they were something I had a handle on. Certain techniques were explored and pushed. The limits found. The learning assimilated. Each of these themes became another part of the things that I do. None came to dominate. It's interesting when you have been around long enough to see a similar thing happen in the bondage scene as a whole. In recent years there have been periods where it seemed that everyone was going crazy for single ankle suspensions at one point in time and Futomomo tsuri at others. Rope bondage is subject to fashions and fads just like the rest of life.  Often these fads rise and fall as if they'd never been. Each time though I think that they leave something behind. They have been the basis for people trying ties and techniques that are new to them. I think that people tend to deride the fact of fads. Complain that they are seeing the same things over and over again. On the other hand sometimes they are useful in that the propagate new ideas. These [...]

By | 2017-03-17T09:57:06+00:00 December 28th, 2013|Categories: Bondage, Life|Tags: , , , |0 Comments

J.P. Rakehorn

Our best congratulations go to the incredible artist J.P. Rakehorn for his triumph at the recent International Juried art show this year in Sin City Gallary Las Vegas. I am always knocked out by his incredible work and heartily recommend visiting his site to see more of his work.

By | 2017-03-17T09:57:06+00:00 December 27th, 2013|Categories: Japanese, Life, Rope|Tags: , , , , , |0 Comments


Everything is old and everything is new. That sentence is true. The future is built on the past. The best futures remember the past well as it informs and shapes the future. Avoiding the mistakes and learning the lessons. The greatest advantage of humanity is it's ability to learn beyond the current generation. To pass on information beyond the grave, to remember its origin and reason. Akechi Denki was a great innovator but also a respecter of tradition. He was a contributor to tradition too. What is tradition? Tradition is respect for the past and the recognition and preservation of what is best of the past. It is ever changing and developing. Sometimes people mistake 'tradition' for 'fossilised', 'dead', 'unchanging' and 'unchangable'. Any serious look at the history of any field will show that this is not the case. The insistence that nothing must change is as bad as the insistence that everything must change. The insistence that the past is nothing is as destructive, if not more as the insistence that the past is nothing.

By | 2013-12-24T00:52:39+00:00 December 24th, 2013|Categories: Bondage, Education, Life|Tags: , , , , , , |0 Comments