Yes, sorry about the title, related puns keep turning up all over.
It often seems to me that people want to have very polarized views of people and what they are about. I.e. if you’re not that… you’re this. If you think that… you must think this.
I often wonder why people feel the need to do that. Perhaps they’re just in search of a simplistic world view where everyone’s in their simple categorized box that means they can just regard you as X or Y without having to think or deal with the vagaries and contradictions of a real human being.
Well people are vauge, the edges are blured, nobody is simplistically one thing or the other. How could anyone think they were?
Also people do not have binary states…
If you’re not young, you’re old, if you’re not fat you’re too thin, if you’re not with us you’re against us!
I think especially when people are interacting with those that they don’t in person and that usually means on-line these days that it’s even more prevalent. Sometimes people just don’t seem to recognise that the people they’re messaging and commenting about are real human beings.
This explains some things about the level of abuse you see on-line, people who would never otherwise dare threaten grievous bodily harm and for what? Not being agreed with in an argument on a forum somewhere? People overreact to an incredible extent and I can’t help feeling that this is a symptom of people not really viewing those they interact with as proper, real, fully paid up members of the human species.
We are vague, we are complicated, we (most of us) have real human feelings. For most of us that means that we are capable of that most human of abilities, empathy.
To some people I have to say, where is your empathy, where is your common courtesy come to that. Where is the recognition that you’re dealing with a real person who can be really effected by unthinking ‘contributions’ of those that cannot or will not recognise this.