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It’s all your fault

Something I saw on a forum recently…

 Once people see something, some of them are probably going to attempt it, and if no useful information on how to do it is available, then they will reverse engineer what they’ve seen. So if you don’t want people to reverse engineer things, publish your techniques.

This unfortunately reads to me as saying… “Once someone stupid decides to do something stupid they’re going to do it, and stupidly. And if YOU didn’t educate them in advance it’s your personal fault that a stupid person did something stupid in a stupid way because you didn’t put up an online tutorial that would have stopped anything stupid from happening! So if you didn’t get there first and educate them then you’ve got no right to complain, point out or even be concerned over this.



I mean… Really?

I find this kind of attitude just incredible. Personally I don’t publish advanced techniques on-line at all. I refuse to, I believe it’s dangerous, I believe it will give the stupid a false sense of security and will not adequately inform the sensible to allow them to proceed responsibly.

I’ve thought a lot about my position on this, I would much rather live with myself as a responsible educator than do something I believe is counter productive to please others. Now before anyone goes off the deep end about my ‘protecting secrets’ or not wanting to educate, I do, very much want to educate. But the thing people sometimes don’t like is that I wont compromise on what I think is responsible education. I do have tutorials of all kinds of stuff, it’s just not available to the general public. It is available to students that I know from personal experience are able to utilise them sensibly and responsibly and wont ‘chance it’ or ‘see what happens’ when they’re unsure, they’ll find out first.  Not just throwing things of any and all levels out into the blue and hoping that the stupid person who was going to do something stupid anyway isn’t going to use this information stupidly, I mean I’d have to think that stupid people were stupid and likely to do stupid things to think that wouldn’t I? Or am I being stupid about this?

And guess what, I don’t charge for those videos at all. Yep, they’re free, at no cost. All someone needs to do is show me unequivocally that they posses the necessary skills, intelligence and temperament to utilise them sensibly. This involves me as a teacher actually being aware of their skills and temperament and giving information that they can make use of intelligently. And that requires effort, from me but also from the student. That is the only price they must pay.

Amazing isn’t it that for some, that is a price that’s too high to pay?

(I just want to add to this thought that I’d like people to think about this, because if you can’t understand why I think this way they you might want to think very hard about what education really is and how rationally and sensibly you are approaching your attitude to a subject that can actually lead to permanent injury for a loved one if you don’t in fact approach it with reasonable care, dedication and seriousness.)

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  1. Mr. Monday July 10, 2012 at 12:37 am

    Well put and a very good point. I’m still very much a novice myself, and don’t like tempting fate with trying something – unless there is educated supervision around. I find its better to learn and move forward with confidence instead of arrogance.

  2. DasFalke (Steven James) July 10, 2012 at 2:58 pm

    I’m going to reprint a post I recently put up on FL

    I’m going to point out a couple of things that is surely not going to be popular, and will probably get me howled down. I’m used to that, so it worries me not, but someone has to say this…

    Life is, and has always been an exercise in natural selection. Sometime that process is vicious, and sometimes benign.

    I’ve often seen rope suspension compared to Motorcycling and that comparison is very accurate. Some (most) people live through the learning process, some don’t. Sometimes the catastrophic failures take others with them. Those unwitting casualties after all, made the choice to get on the back of the machine of an inexperienced and unsafe rider. As does the model who submits to the ropes of an inexperienced and reckless rigger…You cannot prevent the stupid from harming themselves. This is precisely what I alluded to above, it is simply a vicious form of natural selection. That is the way nature functions, it always has, and it always will…The strong and smart survive and prosper, the remainder simply make their own arrangements.

    What can we do to minimise the potential damage? Quite a bit really…

    Kitty and I run the regular Schwelle 7 Bondage jams and we keep our eyes open for potentially dangerous and unsafe suspension practices. We both do that wherever and whenever we practice rope, no matter where we are.

    Furthermore I believe those of us more talented and/or experienced riggers have an obligation to teach and pass on our skills in way that maximises the safety aspects and highlights the potential dangers. Education can always save a few of the potential disasters. I include rope model education in that as well as that information directed it the riggers.

    I was howled down last year when I suggested that a unproven harness was been taught to beginners and sub-intermediate students at a popular community rope workshop. I still stand by that statement because I firmly believe that practice could have resulted in a serious injury to a model if one of those “students” had taken it upon themselves to use that harness for an ad hoc suspension at home.

    We cannot protect the stupid from themselves, but we can prevent ourselves from contributing to that gross stupidity, and compounding the problem.

  3. TarnishedHalo July 11, 2012 at 3:18 pm

    Very well written. As useful as written and video tutorials can be, nothing compares to hands on help, especially as a beginner. I agree with you completely and don’t think you should compromise on your belief structure at all.

  4. BondageNexus July 12, 2012 at 6:27 pm

    …and all this post made me want to do is request access to those videos. 🙂

    I’m half joking, of course. Anyone who expresses their viewpoint on bondage education is a friend of mine.

    I loved Dave’s class at Shibaricon 2012 BTW. The roughly 40 minutes of simply wrapping rope around my partner made me a better rigger. No kidding.

  5. Margo Eve (@MargoEve) July 15, 2012 at 1:56 am


  6. ff November 22, 2012 at 8:51 pm

    Whatever is your reason for not publish advanced tutorials. There is a need. Somebody must educate through internet, by video and tutorials.

    • wykd November 22, 2012 at 9:44 pm

      I’m going to quote the last paragraph of my article in reply

      (I just want to add to this thought that I’d like people to think about this, because if you can’t understand why I think this way they you might want to think very hard about what education really is and how rationally and sensibly you are approaching your attitude to a subject that can actually lead to permanent injury for a loved one if you don’t in fact approach it with reasonable care, dedication and seriousness.)

      And ask that you read what I’ve written about this subject in several articles that explain very clearly my reasoning.

      Saying that if someone responsible wont do it somebody must… well I’ll leave readers to judge that kind of comment. There isn’t a need. There are more good teachers now than ever before, there are more opportunities to learn than ever before, it’s more affordable than ever before, teachers are travelling all over the world than even before.

      Given that and the the isolation and unavailability of teachers that people have used to justify the need for video tutorials that people have previously used to justify their demands for tutorials are no longer present. “Somebody must”?

      No. Sorry but no.

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