Conflicted perspectives

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Conflicted perspectives

I see a great deal of debate on-line that I believe is at cross purposes. Often this surrounds the issue of Japanese vs. European or Western perspectives about Shibari. I think a great many of these arguments are mistaken, miss-directed and completely unproductive. I believe that this is because each of those arguing from either end of the spectrum mistakes something fundamental.  That is that they are each looking at the other from a perspective that is determined by their own exclusive interest.

I know that many people only know me for my Japanese style bondage but I have done all kinds of bondage over the years and still occasionally do DID shoots on a professional basis for websites. This should I hope inform the reader that I’m more than reasonably good at the ‘western’ style and help people not to assume that I, as some have so delightfully put it “have no right to talk about anything other than the Japanese style”. While I of course thank you for your short sightedness, prejudice and stupidity together with the laugh it gives me. I’m going to talk about it anyway.

Looking at DID bondage and judging it as Shibari is bound to lead to the conclusion that it isn’t very good. It’s not good Shibari. It wasn’t created to be good Shibari, it doesn’t do what good Shibari should.

Looking at Shibari from a DID perspective is going to lead to a similar conclusion.

Personally I find them to be very different each from the other. They foster and require different attitudes. They have ultimately different goals. Accepting that they are both forms of rope bondage they are probably as dissimilar as types of rope bondage can be.

I believe that it is in the psychological aspect that this difference is rooted and most pronounced.

You’re really comparing the Oranges and Apples of the rope bondage world.

The shortest way I might describe it is to say that DID is pretty much all about the what of bondage whereas Shibari is about the how as much as the what.

I know that people have and probably will continue to argue this but DID stuff is all about getting someone tied up and then doing stuff. Shibari while being about the result is also about the process of tying. Often the whole scene in Shibari can be about the rope, torture with the rope, manipulation with the rope. In DID it is all about after the tying. The effect of having been tied. The things done after tying.

You can say that hey, you can tie DID stuff with emotion like Shibari. And OK you can. But that’s not been a dominant part of DID up till now and it’s an attempt to graft the practices of one style onto another. There’s no need to do that. They are despite both being bondage done with rope, separate things. It’s useless to compare them or to argue that one is better than the other. They are different and they are for different things, have different feels and intentions.

The arguments about different styles aren’t in fact about different styles, they are about different perspectives and also unfortunately sometimes about ego and pride and insecurity.

I like them both in their ways. I really do. As rope work I find the Shibari / Kinbaku / Japanese style much more fulfilling for me. And that’s the reason I do this rather than that. An individual choice. It’s not because DID is crap, It’s because Shibari does it on so many levels for me.

I do both. I don’t compare them.

It is trying to that leads to the arguments.

By | 2013-12-28T21:09:44+00:00 December 29th, 2013|Bondage|0 Comments

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