Barbarians at the gate again, 50 shades of them apparently

//Barbarians at the gate again, 50 shades of them apparently

Barbarians at the gate again, 50 shades of them apparently

I’ve seen this phrase a couple of times recently. Come to think of it I’ve heard it or something very like it ever since I’ve been on the kink scene.

Sometimes they mean it to be that they’re worried about some kind of influx of people who are experimenters. (People who’ve just read 50 shades of grey are the new worrying barbarians at the gate apparently.)

But are they? No they don’t know about anything much to do with kink and they’ve had their interest piqued by some not very good pulp fiction. So what? Nobody entered the kink scene complete with an encyclopaedic knowledge of every technique safety issue, protocol or whatever. Nobody did.

So why were you not a disaster and this next person surely must be? Life’s a learning process for us all. (Yes not absolutely everyone, we all know people who never really learn but you get the point.)

Personally I don’t think the barbarians are at the gate. Some people will come look and walk away again. Some I think will really have found something that makes a difference to their lives.

Is that bad? Does it matter if someone got to something that they really love from reading badly written pulp fantasy like 50 shades of grey, the story of O or having seen a girl tied to the railtracks in an old black and white movie?

What matters is that they have a chance to find something that’s great for them, that brings them pleasure and ultimately isn’t that what the whole thing’s about?

By | 2017-03-17T09:57:17+00:00 August 2nd, 2012|Life|7 Comments

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  1. Elena August 3, 2012 at 4:31 pm

    Thank you for this one, Sir 🙂 I couldn’t have said it better. I just wish there were more people out there who had such a balanced view of things:),

  2. Nothrin (@Nothrin) August 4, 2012 at 1:41 pm

    I also agree with Elena. As far as I’m concerned the people who read 50 shades and come into the scene will quickly learn what the real kink scene is like and the problems of how the book presents it. Their also the smart ones to come to the community where they can be directed to ways they can learn new interesting things safely. They may be new, but hell so was I at one point.

  3. Lizzie August 13, 2012 at 9:01 pm

    Absolutely, nothing wrong with fantasising. After all imagination is the fuel that gets us where we should be.

  4. Elle September 2, 2012 at 11:32 pm

    Am I the only person into kink that loved 50 Shades?

    • wykd September 3, 2012 at 6:29 am

      Hard to say and possibly unlikely to get an answer here especially as this isn’t a review of the book anyway.

    • gerda November 20, 2012 at 7:45 pm

      NO:) You are most definately not the only one. I had a lot of fun reading it and I think it will do a lot of good – both for vanilla man and women.

  5. Curtis Mercury (@CurtisMercury) September 25, 2012 at 2:31 am

    Well said. I see the spirit of “I was kinky before 50SoG” still looming large with no signs of slowing down. I want to ask those that hold that as a badge of honor what type of cookie they’d like for their impressive accomplishment.

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