Suspension bondage; that’s where the sexy is?

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Suspension bondage; that’s where the sexy is?

The way folks like Wykd_Dave, Kinoko, Osada Steve and every other person with a good suspension video makes it look, suspension is the way to go… that’s where the sexy is.*

Now the above quote while very complimentary reveals something about the common conception of suspension being where it’s at for people coming into rope. I am completely into the idea of floor work, I really love it, that IS where the sexy is.

The thing is that the stuff that gets videoed tends to be the shows. And shows are not necessarily representative of what people really do.

And also we as people who do shows are not trying to make it seem like the only way to go, it’s only part of the stuff we do, a smaller part. Most of the actual rope play we do is on the floor, in private where mostly we don’t seem to have videographers on hand.

I think sometimes people mistake what they see us do for being all that we do.

Aside from myself I do know all the people in that list and every one of us emphasises that the floor work is where it’s at for intimacy and the heart of what bondage is all about for us rather than the stuff you see in some shows.

Intimate floorwork moments, untied.

Sexy on the floor, the only flying is the psychological kind.

Why are there lots of discussions about learning suspension and people wanting on-line tutorials, read them, most are about people who want to stampede toward suspension without bothering with floor work, missing out on what it can be and without wanting to make the kind of real effort needed to really get to grips with it.

Personally I think that people who want to skip past floor work to suspension aren’t only going the wrong way for all the other reasons I’ve written about but also because they are missing out. They’re bypassing the most satisfying and intimate bondage.

If I had to give up suspensions or floor work I could pick in a heartbeat.

Don’t miss out. Get down and dirty on the floor!

It’s where the sexy is.

 

*I want to point out that this quote was lifted from a forum thread that was very strongly pro floorwork. This post isn’t about that thread but about how people perceive suspension vs. floorwork and especially where beginners are concerned.

By | 2017-03-17T09:57:16+00:00 August 14th, 2012|Categories: Bondage, Education, Performance, Rope|Tags: , , , , |1 Comment

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  1. Gray Miller (@Graydancer) August 21, 2012 at 6:02 pm

    I couldn’t agree more. Frankly, I also blame the videographers; it’s easy to shoot a suspension and make it look good; harder to get in close to floor work and capture the real essence of the experience. In fact, I think that’s going to be a goal of mine, dusting off my videographer skills (trained to document dance) and apply to showing exactly your point: floor work is where the sexy is at.

    Thanks for pointing this out. Looking forward to seeing you at the LFAJB, and perhaps also at the GRUE-London two weeks after!

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