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30Dec/110

Is it Art or Pornography?

Rope bondage. Is it Art or Pornography?
Yes.

In all endeavours we should I believe aspire to the highest level. So can this be art, absolutely. Is my work art? I will leave that judgement to the spectator. I would not be so arrogant as to proclaim my work as art nor myself an artist.

The fact of the erotic or even the pornographic does not preclude beauty. It is just as much a part of our humanity as our aesthetic tastes.

Personally I think the brevity of the form makes it more beautiful not less. The image or the video can only capture the appearance of the moment, people can see the expressions and the movement of the moment but cannot feel it, they can empathise and imagine but they cannot be in that moment. If you like it's a creation of not just aesthetics but of emotion experienced within the moment. Not an installation.

Beautiful and brief. If I may permit myself a cliché.... like the cherry blossom the beauty is all the more vivid and precious for its brevity.

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29Dec/110

TK on trial (is it safe?)

There has been a lot of discussion on this topic and it’s wondered far and wide around the subject and has largely been based on personal preferences, anecdotal ‘evidence’ and ‘people said to me’ kinds of things.

To an extent people have been putting the TK on trial rather than the knowledge, safety information and skills required for it's safe use. I wonder however if "Is the TK safe" the right question.

If you want to ask this kind of question it helps to know what the question really is.

Do you mean in an absolute sense? If that’s the question then the answer is easy; no, nothing is safe in an absolute sense and therefore a TK isn’t safe either.

Do you mean to suspend someone in one position for extended periods? If so what constitutes and extended period. What’s the weight distribution on the body? How else is the body to be supported? What position would the suspension be in?

If you want to compare it to other ties then are they comparable? Do they provide equivalent restriction, can you do similar suspensions and transitions?

Another thing I’d consider a key question is, what’s a TK anyway? You can simplistically say that it’s a box tie, that rope goes over the arms etc. But there are so many different variants and methods of construction that it’s very hard to agree exactly what a TK is. And if you don’t agree this before discussing it’s safety then you invalidate the discussion by talking at cross purposes at anything but the most general level.

A big problem with this kind of question is evidence. We know that there are injuries, we know that many variables effect what these injuries are and their severity. What we don’t know is how significant each of these factors are. Without a serious scientific study this is going to continue to be a problem for any discussion. Things like “I’ve never had a problem with”, “Nobody I’ve talked to has” and the like aren’t really helpful or significant. I’ve never been run over crossing the street, this doesn’t mean that people aren’t run down crossing the street or that there isn’t a level of danger associated with crossing the street. If someone says to me that they’ve never known someone who was run over crossing the street does that in any way effect the likelihood of it actually happening? Of course not. Anecdotal evidence is for reasons such as that almost totally meaningless. Individual experiences are unavoidably subjective. Given enough accurate information it’s possible to build up a more informative picture, this is what Esinem has been trying to do by encouraging people to report incidents with as much detail as possible anonymously. The more information that is recorded and the greater number of incidents the more a real picture will emerge. However it must be born in mind that this reporting is itself subjective and not scientific observation.

So, where does that leave us? Not anywhere in particular, don’t get the impression that the information gathered as described above is useless. It does at the very least inform us of the trend of the most common problem and their type. Or to be absolutely clear about this, the most commonly reported problems and their type. What it doesn’t accurately do is inform us of the exact cause though we can make some deductions, without testing however we can’t guarantee that our deductions aren’t skewed by factors that we’re not aware of.

From all the forgoing we know that injuries of concern are nerve injuries, we know that people have suffered wrist drop, palsies and the like. From this it seems fair to deduce that these injuries are caused by the pressure of the rope over the nerve.

Let’s assume for the sake of argument that placement is the key to these injuries and avoiding them. If we make that assumption what if any other factors come into play? Is there any way we can justify that proposition?

Hypothetical case 1
Let’s consider the same tie with the same tension and the same placement and the same model, once on the floor with no suspension pressures and once in suspension. In our hypothetical case the suspension results in nerve damage and the floor bondage doesn’t.
This, given the relative incidence of nerve damage in suspension vs. floor bondage seems a case that is likely to occur and very probably has on a number of occasions or at least a very close approximation. In this case as the placement is the same in both instances it must be that some other factor has come into play. What could this be? The obvious one is that the amount of pressure applied to the body is much greater in suspension than in floor bondage. So pressure is a factor.

Before we go further let’s have another hypothetical case.

Hypothetical case 2
Let’s consider the same tie as in case 1 but with a slightly altered rope placement, with the same model the same suspension.
This time their is no injury. Given that the pressure applied to the body is the same as in case one we can only assume that the rope placement made the difference.

So we can now assume that rope placement is not the sole cause, pressure is not the sole cause, we need bad rope placement plus pressure. We can however further deduce that rope placement is the primary causative factor but does not necessarily result in injury without a certain amount of pressure.

If we accept that placement is the primary cause then the other factors that may come into play will be regarding the extent of possible damage, for instance muscle tone, weight, body fat, rope thickness, time under stress and so on and so forth. Depending on their quantities/proportions any of these factors may be positive or negative influences but in cases where any of these mitigate the effects of pressure it is the case that they only mitigate and not prevent.

(On a side note that I while I feel it’s worth mentioning but don’t wish to introduce as a complication to these examples is the fact that angle of pull/suspension can effect where a tie transmits force into the body of the tied and that this should be born in mind and accounted for with regard to dynamic suspensions and transitions)

So what conclusions can we draw?

That rope placement is causative of nerve damage injury, that it’s likely that no other factors will mitigate against this causing an injury if get it exactly wrong though they may effect the extent of the injury. If you get it slightly wrong i.e. you’re close to but not actually over the nerve then factors like body fat between the rope and the site, muscle mass between the rope and the site, force being applied via the bondage, duration of compression etc. will come more into play.

A conclusion that we can draw, is that in all cases rope placement is the deciding factor in injury. If the rope were not over or near the site of the vulnerability then there wouldn’t be a nerve injury.

What then can we do to prevent these nerve injuries? They do happen and will probably continue to happen. Sometimes because people don’t even know there is a problem to be avoided, sometimes because people don’t know how to avoid the problem, and sometimes, hard though it may be to accept, accidents happen. It’s clear however that accidents happen far less often to the more skilled.

Good information, good teaching, good attitude and good practice all help to cut down the incidence of these injuries. That being said, it is generally true that rope play, especially rope suspension play is edge play and is a danger entered into deliberately. It's therefore incumbent on those participating to arm themselves with the best knowledge possible. This is the difference between entering into a known risk in a calculated rather than a reckless fashion.

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28Dec/111

Feeling responsible.

When teaching people I find that I have a very great feeling of responsibility for those that I teach. Consequently I want to ensure that nothing is mistaken or miscommunicated and that the student has fully understood what I want to get across. This is particularly true of bondage safety.

I want those I teach to be fully seized of the nature of the danger that they can cause to their partner and the responsibility that they bear for their partners safety. Yet at the same time I don't want to frighten them away from bondage or make them think that bondage is more dangerous than it is.

If I've taught them well I hope that they will go on to enjoy bondage for many years without avoidable misfortune.

I sometimes think that I worry too much about how a student will fare after they have left my teaching. That is to be concerned for their ongoing development and care of safety.

I know that it is foolish to harbour such feelings too deeply. My students are adults and responsible for their actions. The care of the teacher can only extend so far. And yet I cannot seem to help feeling this concern. In teaching someone, to some extent, I feel that the safety of those that they then go on to tie is also to an extent my responsibility, an extended consequence of my teaching. This is why I'm so concerned to teach well.

Perhaps this is too much feeling. And yet I do feel this concern for students and for their partners as yet unmet.

Yes I know this is something that must be limited, you can only help someone on their journey, you cannot travel it for them. It's not something that rules my life or causes me to not teach or to pursue or observe students out of my care. But it is there somewhere.

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27Dec/110

h2

Clear dawn
Frozen beauty
Spring blooms

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27Dec/110

Be gentle with yourself.

Go placidly amid the noise & haste, & remember what peace there may be in silence.

As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons.

Speak you truth quietly & clearly; and listen to others, even the dull & ignorant; they too have their story.

Avoid loud & aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit. If you compare yourself to others you may become vain & bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals; and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection.

Neither be cynical about love for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.

Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue & loneliness.

With all it's sham and drudgery & broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be Cheerful!

Strive to be happy!!

Max Erhman original poem 'Desiderata' (edited slightly for sense with apologies to the author WD)

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24Dec/111

Mastery

Often you will find that the best at anything have a certain humility, this is because in their pursuit of excellence they have realised how little they know and how much more there is to learn. They call themselves students and always see themselves as such, seeking always to learn.

Often those who are the least humble are the mediocre, they have learned a little but cannot see how little they really know. They believe what little they know is all that should be known and become arrogant in their little knowledge. They proclaim themselves masters and never seek to learn.

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24Dec/110

Because it makes my dick hard.

One thing that you see come up time after time is statements like....

I love rope because of the skill
I love rope because of the artistry
I love rope because of the skill
I love rope because of the symmetry
I love rope because....
Tying up girls makes my **** hard!

Another favourite is "If you have rope in one hand and a hard on in the other you're doing shibari."

Those statements, though they are so very obviously jokes, reminders not to take everything too seriously still seem on occasion to be taken as the truth by some individuals. Why would this be? Is it literally true? Could it be? Is anyone really so spectacularly obtuse as not to recognise a bit of Reductio ad absurdum when they see it?

Well if you really do have rope in one hand and your hard on in the other you aren't going to be able to do very much of anything with someone else, you certainly will not be in a  position to tie them up so, no this isn't literally true.

Sometimes people seem to interpret it to mean that the other reasons listed are not true. Can that be the case? It's hard to see how taking pleasure in skill, artistry, connection, beauty etc. etc. aren't real reasons to enjoy something; they are very real reasons for taking pleasure. Yet some think that the last statement diminishes the others. This clearly isn't true.

None of this suggests that sexual excitement isn't just as valid a reason for enjoying bondage as any others, but thinking that this reason invalidates any other reason you might have for enjoying bondage is a false supposition. The supposition that because this is 'a' reason, that it's 'the' reason, that the other reasons are some kind of spurious justification for doing the things that result in the last reason.

Given that the people who are generally credited for these utterances are people who have no shame for what they do and feel no need for spurious justifications for their kink this is just a ridiculous thing to think. In fact that's why the last line comes in like the punchline it is. It's a joke, a reminder that as well as all the other reasons there are visceral reasons for what we do.

So why did the other lines and reasons come from? Because when kinky people are talking about a specific kink and are asked specifically what they like about that specific kink they will answer with things that they find enjoyable particular to that specific kink beyond the obvious.

There are many reasons to do what we do. Usually many of these reasons are in play at the same time; many not even consciously available. Sometimes people want sound bites, not answers they have to think about. They don't really want or aren't able to think beyond a snappy 'sounds good to me' slogans.

If people want to reduce the complex reasons and interactions of human motivations to a shallow one line oversimplified slogan then I think that's quite sad.

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23Dec/111

There is only now.

Sometimes all that exists is the desire. In these desperate empty moments where all that I can want is to do, to create, to tie, to hold, to reach for the brief moment of nothing, of stillness, of calm, of being lost.

These bitter-sweet moments are where I live, where I am alive. Where I have no aspiration, no desire, no want other than what is. Here and now, within this moment.

And then it is gone and I must yearn again.

It is in its briefness, it is in its passing that it is beautiful.

If it could be captured, held, imprisoned in time it would be nothing, just a pale image of the living moment.

There is only now.

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23Dec/110

Rope bottom guide

A great guide by my partner clover.

Recommended reading for all bottoms and a worthwhile read for the tops too.

Download the Rope bottom guide.

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20Dec/110

Love, beauty, suffering and exquisite agony.

She is in... exquisite palpable heart breaking distress! So cute, so vulnerable, so desperate! My heart is wrung with her plight, my soul is nourished by her suffering, my spirit fed by her cries.

She begs! And she will do anything to have her desire. My heart is bursting and I will give her anything... except her desire.

I can do so much for her now. I can bind her tighter, twist her body, tease her flesh, make her cry with frustration. I can give her so much except her desire. In this moment that is impossible.

To see her like this is my desire and hers. My joy and hers, our shared pleasure. Touching beyond senses, hugging beyond reach, feeling beyond explanation!

She is in subspace, and has been for some time. She whimpers as I release her, slowly, a turn at a time, drawing the ropes over her helpless flesh. The touch the feel the sound of the rope over her body. Till the very last bit leaves her skin!

I lay her down, I cover her body with the loose unwound rope from the floor and drape a Yukata over her. I sit looking at her, rope-marked, exhausted and blissfully drifting in a world of her own.

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