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Little thought on professional associations

There are many well intentioned discussions at the moment about professional associations for riggers and / or models. Many terrible people love to join professional associations because it lends them the seeming of legitimacy without much actual effort in contrast to those that build their own reputation by actually achieving something. Professional associations have their uses for concrete definable professions with real qualifications that can be subjectively determined. i.e. there's a reason why these exist commonly for trades. Also many associations exist to represent their members in some way. If so who runs it and how is it going to be paid for? Or do you want or the kind that only exist to provide information and a nexus of communication for members? Do people mean something like the General Medical Council that can strike of Doctors so they can't practice. If so how do you enforce this? Eventually associations with bad members are devalued and become worthless regardless of any good works due to bad members. People stop trusting it. So you just have to stop bad people joining right? Well how? This has sprung up in the wake of revelations about some well known presenters. So you wouldn't let them in your association right? Why not? Until recently they had as far as many were concerned good reputations. Their turning out to not be the kind of people you'd have wanted associated with your professional association wasn't necessarily predictable. So now you're going to expel them right? How? You're going to have a tribunal with witnesses and a trusted panel of adjudicators who are senior professionals. How do you determine who they should be? Even if you do this and it all works [...]

By | 2017-03-17T09:57:05+00:00 May 30th, 2015|Categories: Bondage, Community, Life|Tags: , , |0 Comments

A brief thought on hard points

If you do not know beyond a shadow of a doubt that a suspension point is definitely good enough then it's NOT good enough. If you do not have the necessary knowledge to judge if an unfamiliar suspension point is good enough yourself. Then you should set about acquiring that knowledge or just not use it. I honestly think that having the ability to judge the appropriateness of a suspension point is an essential skill for anyone who's going to suspend in different locations. And yes, I apply that to suspension points in clubs and at events too. I've refused to use points in clubs because for one reason or another I wasn't happy with them. And you cannot just take it on trust and you have to be responsible for the decision to suspend on whatever it is that you do suspend on. Because... You are making the decision to hang someone's life on that thing!

By | 2015-05-15T22:15:42+00:00 May 15th, 2015|Categories: Bondage, Suspension|Tags: , , , , |0 Comments

Copy wrong

Filed firmly under the category of really? Again? Had to send some takedown notices again on one site because someone had copped our images, modified them to remove the mark and posted it up on their profile. I issued the usual DMCA takedown and that image was removed. That's pretty much the unfortunate business as usual. What was odd was the message I received from the guy after. What a sad man. Nothing better to do than grassing people up for something that doesn't affect you at all. I liked the pic, never said it was mine. No life. Derp right? What a sad man I must be not letting him just rip off stuff without consequences, nothing better to do than report an idiot that doesn't understand copyright and thinks they're entitled to rip off anything they fancy just because they 'liked the pic'. And how could I possibly think that him ripping off my work, removing even the mark that could have led people back to my work and posting it horribly degraded could possibly affect me? Just ridiculous of me. It was nice of him to admit that he had no rights to the image though. I don't imagine that was his intent but possibly not the sharpest tool in the box. So lastly, 'no life'. Well here's my problem with that. I do very much have a life. A very large part of that life this person so amusingly assumes that I  don't have very obviously involves tying up lots of beautiful women. Part of it even included creating these images that the guy liked so much that he flatteringly posted them with the creators identification edited off. I have so many [...]

By | 2017-03-17T09:57:05+00:00 November 22nd, 2014|Categories: Bondage, Community, Life|Tags: , , , |0 Comments

Rope minimalism

Here is some rope minimalism from some time ago. Originally this came up because of someone saying that 6 feet of rope was 'obviously' too short to do any bondage with. So here are a few ties done with a 6 foot length of rope doubled to make it only 3 feet of working length. It's interesting to see what can be done when you place a deliberate restriction on yourself and challenge yourself to be creative within the parameters of that restriction. I was determined that these not be simply for show but that they be obviously practical effective bondage too.

By | 2015-08-16T23:40:07+00:00 October 29th, 2014|Categories: Bondage|Tags: , , , , |0 Comments

Rope date in London September 2014

Rope date with Jack and Zahara in London was a very fun event for us. Held in The Resistance Gallery in Bethnal Green the venue had a great atmosphere. After party Shibari rope bondage performance flyer. The gallery has had some bad fortune recently with a fire wrecking most of the place. Their Resistance rising campaign is here. At night and with limited lighting running on extension leads this venue really was a dark and underground experience. The perfect venue therefore for some nice harsh rope bondage. I had fun putting Clover through some nasty stuff. We had all-round a great time in London with the slight exception of the car's exhaust breaking half way down the motorway making progress there and all the way back more than a little 'loud' though I think we were getting used to it by the time we got home. I have to say a special thank you to Jack and Zahara for organising some great accommodation in a nearby hotel, not every event is so considerate. It was nice not to have to drive back in the night and it allowed us to start Sunday well with a lovely breakfast by the West Boating Lake. Outdoor breakfast with friends on a glorious and unseasonally warm Autumn day. What better opening to Sunday?   Full gallery can be viewed here.  

By | 2017-03-17T09:57:05+00:00 October 4th, 2014|Categories: Bondage|0 Comments

Rigger

You know I used to say I was a rigger because it was a nice neutral term. But... well people have kind of turned it into a title of sorts and now people start posts with "I'm a rigger!" and it makes me cringe. Not least because I think... You're a rigger (in the titled sense you now mean it) and I think NO you're not, you'd maybe like to think you are but you're someone who maybe once in a while uses rope and it's a far cry from that to someone who can really rig. See if you want to use it like that especially about yourself you'd damn well better be able to do it. And most of you that have latched on to the previously serviceable and unpretentious word and turned it into a title and use it that way are exactly the people that it shouldn't apply to in that way. People seem obsessed with creating titles for themselves. Shut up and do some good rope instead. If you were good you wouldn't need 'titles' for yourself no would you?

By | 2017-03-17T09:57:05+00:00 September 29th, 2014|Categories: Bondage, Life|Tags: , , , |0 Comments

Rope bondage references

References are a valuable tool for keeping you informed, aware and safe when considering playing with others. I cannot recommend getting references enough, although they are often overlooked and not used enough when considering tying with new people. I think that rope tops should vet bottoms and bottoms should vet tops before playing, shooting, and especially performing. I have heard of instances when this system has been abused, confidentiality is broken and people get angry and hurt. This results in a bad feeling and quality of reference. It can lead to scene drama and people being unwilling to give references. It is very simple to avoid this situation and have a great resource for our community. Giving References A good protocol to abide by when you are asked for a reference is to report facts, your own actual experience. Try not to sensationalise things in your head. It can be difficult but try to remain unbiased when giving a reference, separate your feelings from the person and inform the person what your own experience was or what your current knowledge is surrounding that individual. Getting References When asking for a reference, it is important to remember that you are asking for an account of someone’s individual experience with the person in question. They may be the one person to have a positive or negative experience so it is important to get more than one reference. When it comes to rope bondage I recommend gathering as many references as possible from tops and bottoms to build a picture of the person you are considering doing rope with. Potential Questions Negotiation How was negotiation handled? Was it done? Were agreements and limits honoured? Injury Accidental etc. What [...]

By | 2017-03-17T09:57:05+00:00 May 5th, 2014|Categories: Bondage, Education|Tags: , , , , |0 Comments

A wonderful 2013

It's been an extraordinary year. Things have happened that I could not have predicted. Surprising and wonderful opportunities have come my way. I have worked with some amazing people. I just don't know what to say about most of it. Some of it seems like a dream. It's good to take a moment and reflect on the things that have happened and remember that through all of the triumphs and disasters of life that they never happen in isolation from the rest of the world. I have had opportunities that would simply never have occurred without the kindness and generosity of some extraordinary friends. I absolutely thank them from the bottom of my heart for their support and friendship. Knowing such people is one of life's great joys. Every year it seems that it's hard to imagine that the next could possibly be better than the previous one. Yet it's kept happening for the last few years. This past year I have tied for an international fashion magazine (more news when that's published), The movie love.honour.obey by Raindance Raw Talent and Mulholland pictures and directed by Ate de Jong. Last but not least the epic opportunity to work with avant garde legend Bob Wilson. It was a rare opportunity to play a part in his project for the Louvre gallery in Paris. More incredibly the model for this project was Lady Gaga. I can't say how incredible it feels to know that there's some full on suspension bondage hanging in the worlds most famous art gallery.

By | 2017-03-17T09:57:05+00:00 February 15th, 2014|Categories: Bondage, Life|Tags: , , |0 Comments

What is Kinbaku today?

This is a personal post and just a musing.  What I think it is changes over time and this is not everything that I think it is. If you're looking for a definition please look elsewhere. Kinbaku is the art of erotic, sensual, intimate, bondage. It is tying for beauty, helplessness and exquisite suffering. To tie is to hug, tender and violent. It is lust and art together. It is expression beyond my ability to describe it.

By | 2017-03-17T09:57:06+00:00 January 22nd, 2014|Categories: Bondage, Rope|Tags: , , , , |0 Comments