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Badly copied rope bondage

It’s an unfortunate problem that sometimes people copy your bondage badly. Not just that it looks bad but that the person copying something they have seen is copying it without understanding it.

The above is particularly worrying when applied to suspension bondage. Some people seem not to get this but, suspension bondage is dangerous if you get it wrong! Honestly it really is.

I find that the problem of bad copiests particularly effects me when I see pictures of bondage or in some cases hear tell of bondage that is bad, dangerous etc. done by people that I know have seen me rigging. I should not feel this but sometimes I cannot help but feel that I see poor, badly implemented or just plain wrong imitations of things I have done either at a shoot or workshop or demonstration. Did they think that it looked easy therefore it would be easy?

What to do? Nothing unfortunately I have absolutely no desire or right to be some kind of bondage policeman. I don’t want to spend my time arguing people out of their decisions. At the end of the day they’re adults and responsible for their own actions. But! Should you leave these people to their own mistakes? Unfortunately you have to. You cannot babysit the world, you cannot forcibly educate those that will not learn.

What bothers me is that in the case of bad rigging it is the trusting bound who is going to suffer the consequences of bad bondage not the unskilled rigger.

Many times it seems to me that people are relatively new to rope bondage and see what they perceive to be “cool suspensions” and want to be doing them. Well there’s nothing wrong with wanting to do suspensions. What’s wrong is when they do suspensions without grasping the basics and getting a firm grip on them first. What’s wrong is when they do suspensions without a firm grasp of the consequences of getting it wrong!

Everyone has something go wrong sometime. I’ve had things go wrong. Regardless of knowledge of bondage, anatomy, experience and however many successful suspensions. Regardless of all I’ve learned in order to try and reduce the risk of something going wrong it happens. Suspension bondage is risky and it is incumbent on those who do it to be as well prepared as possible.

Now in the light of that statement consider how much more likely it is for something to go wrong with someone who isn’t as well prepared. Who doesn’t fully understand the risks. Who’s technique and skills are at the rudimentary level. People who aren’t experienced or knowledgeable to the point where they should be attempting suspension bondage. And I don’t just mean the risks of instant damage. Nerve damage problems can be cumulative. Bad placement of ropes can cause problems that aren’t immediately obvious and by the time they do become obvious it’s too late.

By | 2017-03-17T09:57:17+00:00 July 22nd, 2012|Categories: Bondage, Education, Life, Rope|Tags: , , , , , , , |5 Comments

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  1. Peter S. July 24, 2012 at 1:03 am

    The best writing on this essential topic I’ve seen in a long time. Cudos Dave for expressing what rarely the most popular thin to bring up, still it must be said and unfortunately, it needs to be repeated over and over again: In particular that applies to engaging with rope suspension, your ego is not only your own worst enemy, it becomes your partners worst enemy as well in that split second you fail to react due to lack of practice and/or knowledge. Learning is not the same as understanding a tie and being able to predict and assess.

  2. Mike Drago August 14, 2012 at 12:12 am

    Dave,

    I love the stance that you take, and fully support you in it. I feel the only way to stop the badly copied bondage is to stop posting pictures and stop performing in public. I don’t believe anyone is going to do that.
    Kudos

    • wykd August 14, 2012 at 7:15 pm

      Mike, I’m not 100% sure how much you mean that. If people stop performing and stop making pictures because of the irresponsible few where would we be and where does it end?

      Once a guy jumped of a bridge with a steel wire tied to his ankle, he lost his foot and plunged into a freezing river… therefore nobody should be allowed to bungy? Bungy jumping is a risk, but one that is also tempered with a degree of caution, know how and risk awareness.

      Rope bondage is never 100% safe, but it is tempered with knowledge, skill, due caution and an awareness and acknowledgement of the risks involved.

      • Mike Drago August 16, 2012 at 1:48 am

        What I was trying to get across was that there will always be someone who copies what he sees. It may end up going wrong. I don’t expect anyone to stop. Those who perform and show their pictures and skills advance the world and we should always keep advancing.

  3. I agree that we can’t go online and out into the world and actively track down bad bondages to correct everyone, but if I stumble upon an unsafe bondage, I do say/write something because they might do that same thing AGAIN in the future and really injure someone. I try to phrase it as a suggestion instead of an argument — such as ‘this position could also be done with an up-rope at the hip line to support hip weight’ or somesuch.

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