Very sad news. It seems that Nureki Chimuo has passed away. He was 83 It is an often overused phrase but in this case I think it is fair to say that we shall not see his like again. Chimuo Nureki has perhaps the longest and most varied history of any living bakushi. His reputation as a rope artist and career stretching over five decades have earned him a worldwide following. He has been called "The greatest living...kinbaku master". Throughout his career, Nureki has been a prolific writer and his work often appeared in iconic Japanese SM magazines such as Kitan Club and Uramado. He was closely associated with the founder of Uramado and kinbaku legend, Kou Minomura. Nureki was also one of the few living bakushi to have had personal contact with Seiu Ito. Full biography on nawapedia
Are you scared yet? A film by Raindance raw talent directed by Ate de Jong Earlier this year I had an amazing experience working on a new film. This full length feature thriller features some shibari rope bondage. It was my great pleasure to be able to supply this for the movie. The first showing of this movie will be on Monday September 30th at 9:00pm A home invasion irrevocably changes the lives of all involved in ways neither victims nor perpetrator could have imagined. The showing is on the Monday immediately following the London Festival of the Art of Japanese Bondage in London. It was an amazing experience being involved in a project like this and to work with so many wonderful people. I'm not going to give away anything that happens in the film. You'll just have to wait and see. More updates running up to and after the first festival showing.
We've always had an amazing time performing in London at the Festival of Japanese bondage. We have been lucky enough to make some great friends over the years and we're looking forward to doing so again this year. Old friends and new are coming from all around the world. It's going to be great. 2012 another great year. So here is a memory of our performance then. 2013 looks like it will be another great one with Naka Akira and Iroha Shizuki headlining two show nights and also teaching. Saki Kamijoo will also be performing and teaching. We're hoping to produce another great memory in 2013 so stay tuned for video and images after the festival.
Some time ago we had the pleasure of doing some Shibari and being interviewed by DarkFrameFilms. There's an interview with me too but I think first everyone will be much more interested in seeing an interview with the lovely Clover. Also featured is some footage from our performances in Moscow in April 2013.
Some time ago I wrote an article about who's in control in a D/s relationship. Out of that arose the question of when someone really doesn't have control. Regardless of your dynamic within a relationship you are both clearly in charge of the relationship itself so you don't ever have a situation where you have no choice about what goes on in the relationship or ultimately if you're in the relationship at all. So when do you really have no control? I think that one of those occasions could be within a scene where once committed you have no choice but to see it through. The analogy I'm going to use for this is skydiving! The reason I'm using skydiving as an example is that it fulfills the same kind of criteria as a scene where you have at least temporarily no choice. You have the choice to jump or not right up till the moment of jumping, if you like a point of no return, quite literally in the case of a parachute jump. Yet once you have committed to the jump, once you're out of our metaphorical aircraft you're skydiving like it or not and you have no choice but to see it through. You cannot change your mind halfway down. Now theoretically, in a scene you 'could' stop it with a safe word etc. or if really in trouble e.g. a medical emergency. It is easy however to see how someone could in a consensual way give up their safe-word for the duration of a specific scene. That's 'could' I'm not saying if it's a good idea or not, I'm just saying that you 'could' very well do that*. A thing that's important to [...]
There isn't an ultimate truth. There isn't only one way. There is lots and lots of stuff that's arguable. There is no such thing as totally safe. There are lots of different approaches. There are different aesthetic tastes. There are specifics or peculiarities of models. There are lots of shades of grey. There are lots of subjective choices. There are times you can't see the whole picture. Nevertheless and accepting of all of that... There is such a thing as just BAD. So do your best, then do better. Learn well and do well. When someone lets you bind them they trust you to take care of them. Be worthy of that trust.
Beauty is. I believe that beauty exists! It is as real as anything in the world. Beauty is succore and solace. It is a life's pursuit and passion. It is real, and is not corrupted by the changing fashions of time. Beauty is nature framed and alive in it's instant. I believe that beauty is beyond price. If I shall have one belief in my life. Let it be this.
So.. who do you trust? This is a really serious and difficult question for people who are new to the kink scene. You want to learn, you're excited to explore. But who can you trust to help you and not take advantage of your inexperience? I cannot tell you who you should trust but I can say a few things about taking care of yourself. Don't ever assume you can trust someone just because they're... Well known in the scene Appear to play with a lot of people Seem to say everything you want to hear Have been around for a long time Happen to organise an event Talk loudly about how wonderful they are Not everyone on the scene is a predator, not everyone is abusive, some people are and they make life just that little bit harder and less fun for everyone. It’s essential however, to recognise that they exist and to act accordingly. And that is with a little caution. I’d like to make the point that I’m not saying, don’t ever trust anyone. What I am saying is that IF you’re going to trust someone with your body, emotional or psychological well-being or even just rely on their advice. It IS worth seeing if they’re what they appear to be. Some try to gain instant trust by offering mentorship or protection to people that they've only just met. There are those who can become genuine mentors but they tend to want to know a person reasonably well before taking on a real commitment. Some people are what they appear to be, and getting to know them is a delight and they can be wonderful rewarding people to know. Some people though [...]
A while ago I put up my friend Jahc's "Even More Slightly Universal Laws of Rope and Ropery…..and Stuff!" after which TheHammer from Baltimore (a real good guy, say hello from me if you see him) asked why I hadn't put up the 'Hammer Axioms'. Well here they are in all their glory. These are his words and not mine, credit where it is due! Axiom #1, be prepared that if you find you like rope and you get into it, your kit will be full of everything that anybody ever suggested to a beginner at one time or another. I am your support group from hell, because the answer to any question is, "you need more rope." (It's a meme and a fetish!) Axiom #2, when asking yourself what kind of rope you need, there is no right answer, and there is no wrong answer. In the long run you will reach for different ropes for different applications, and each one will be a personal decision based on too many factors to simply articulate here. Refer to Axiom #1, because there will always be some application you haven't thought of, and you will "need more rope." Axiom #3, the one common size that you will be able to get in almost every kind of rope from every vendor: 30' of 6mm (1/4"). You can buy these and cut them in half to get 15' lengths. The same size, or something pretty close to it (8m-10m lengths of 6mm), is what almost every instructional video or shibari - sorry, kinbaku - master will tell you to use. My personal take on this is that evolutionary forces have acted to tease out what works for most tops [...]